I recently created a new mini-course titled “Find Your Dream Job”. In planning my two session workshop, I reviewed many of my favorite books and discovered a couple of new ones. I found similarities and common themes on finding your calling, realizing your right livelihood, and building a career based on your talents and passions. Here is the basic underlying message I concluded:
To create the life you want, you have to get clear on what that is.
There is a story I often share to illustrate this: You are in a restaurant looking over the menu. The waiter appears and you say: “I’ll have a soda, French fries and a cheeseburger”. As he turns to head to the kitchen (or computer terminal these days) you call him back: “on second thought, I shouldn’t have the fries, so give me a small salad instead.” Again, he turns and starts towards the kitchen. You call him back saying: “you know I really don’t need the cheese, just give me a plain burger.” The point of this story is that the cook in the kitchen can’t make your order until you can decide what you really want. Think of the cook as “the universe, the divine, God or the source”. It cannot bring you what you want in your life if you can’t place the order.
If you look back on your life, consider: have you started down one path or another only to change direction over and over? It could be that you are simply seeking to live a life in alignment with your passion and purpose and haven’t quite arrived there yet. Through trial and error, you may see you are steadily moving in a direction, you just don’t know where you are going yet. If you keep returning to your core values, your passions, and stay in alignment with those through your thoughts, decisions, actions and goals, your purpose eventually reveals itself.
You may be saying “that’s all well and good but I am just not finding my own purpose. In fact, I am more confused than ever of how to find my best career direction, much less my life’s purpose.” Let’s look at how the mind works for a moment. Our thoughts are like monkeys jumping from branch to branch looking for a better banana. Additionally, our entire physical system is driven by the instinct to avoid pain and seek pleasure. When new information comes in, the brain goes into an alert state. The amygdala is saying; “wake up, something’s happening, is it SAFE or is it DANGEROUS”? When you are endeavoring to change your mind and change your life this causes some upheaval. There are “bumps in the road”. The old patterns you’ve set up in your brain tissue want to keep running and here you are, forging new links. This process can result in feelings of confusion, you might feel unlike yourself. Change can shake things up!
By bringing your focus back to your passions, back to your pure intention to live your life in alignment with your core values, the path becomes easier. For myself, I have found a regular meditation practice to be helpful in slowing down the sheer number of thoughts that zip through our brains (did you know scientists now say we have as many as 80,000 thoughts a day?). When we stop “following the monkeys from branch to branch”, we may hear our small inner voice, our intuition, our higher Self prompting us and nudging us to move toward that alignment of passion and purpose.
Here are some of the books I recommend to help you find that dream job, your purpose, your passions…
The Passion Test: The Effortless Path to Discovering Your Life Purpose, Janet and Chris Atwood
Build Your Dreams: How To Make a Living Doing What You Love, Alexis Irvin and Chip Hiden
“We’re so engaged in doing things to achieve purposes of outer value that we forget the inner value, the rapture that is associated with being alive, is what it is all about.” Joseph Campbell