The day after Thanksgiving is commonly referred to as “Black Friday”. I propose we think of it as “Light Friday” instead and bask in the glow of Thanksgiving. It is a perfect time to reflect on all we are grateful for in our lives. We have a family tradition of holding hands around the table and going to each person who then shares their appreciations and blessings. Often this includes sending out loving intention to absent relatives.
We are fortunate in our family to have two living grandmothers and one of the appreciations shared this year was just that. Both my mother and mother –in- law are hale and still quite hearty in their mid 80’s. As they both live in the Carolinas and no longer enjoy flying, we don’t see them often. My daughter Nicole suggested we organize a “grandmother’s getaway” so that she could spend some time with them. Last month the four of us had five glorious days together and enjoyed the beauty of Myrtle Beach, SC.
I took this picture from our hotel balcony on our last morning. There is something purely magical about witnessing the sun rising seemingly from the ocean. I love the dawn, the light of a new day. Each morning is a new start, a fresh slate. You can set the tone of your day simply by appreciating it. Every time I see this photo I will remember the great time we four had together. My daughter and I thoroughly enjoyed hanging out with the octogenarians, playing bridge and hearing about yesteryear when the world was simpler. They find smart phones, GPS, and digital cameras to be “mind boggling” (to quote my mother-in-law).
Nicole and I listened to her grandmothers share their stories and their practical wisdom. She and I both realized how fortunate we were to be there with them, to still have them in our lives. As we move through this holiday season, I hope we can hold that sense of gratitude not just for our family and friends but for the larger community of mankind.
I encourage you to foster an attitude of gratitude and spread it around. Here are some tips to develop it:
Keep a gratitude journal. Every day or two write down things you appreciate. As a regular exercise, I ask my coaching clients to list 3 things they are grateful for each week. It helps to remember that there are good things happening in our lives despite whatever challenges (like job searching), we may be going through.
Take a walk in natural surroundings. Take time to breathe in the fragrances of flowers, the earthiness of fallen leaves or the tang of winter air. It is very soul satisfying to just be very present to the magnificence of the natural world around us.
Write a note or letter of appreciation. Tell people who have helped you or touched your life how much you appreciate them. Give them a recommendation, write a testimonial, or send them a card. If you receive some of these, save them and review them when you are having a “black” day or an “off” week.
“Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation”. -Brian Tracy
Wishing you all a warm and wonderful holiday season! -Dee