I had a birthday this week and got to thinking about how quickly the years go by. It saddens me how many people slog though endless days working at jobs they don’t like. What stops them from leaving an employer or an occupation they don’t find satisfying? Why do they grit their teeth and continue to go to a job that drains their energy and robs them of precious hours they could be using in pursuit of more joyous work?
I’ve been re-visiting some to the books in my career coaching collection and in How to Find the Work You Love I discovered something I thought important to share. The author, Laurence Boldt suggests that what stops us from pursuing a calling or finding our “life’s work” are the “Voices of Doubt”. Here is how he defines these inner voices.
The voice of doom and gloom – You might identify this for yourself when your mind starts up about fears of financial ruin. (Are you really going to become a bag lady if you quit your job?). Is it really riskier to ignore your creative urges and stay in work that pays the bills but sucks your precious life force? As George Bernard Shaw put it; “If you are going to let the fear of poverty govern your life…your reward will be that you will earn, but you will not live.” I think sometimes we just have to feel the fear and move forward anyway! You never know what opportunities may come your way once you start moving towards your ideal career.
The voice of conformity – Evidence of this voice occurs when you start worrying about others’ opinions of you. For example, when I decided to launch my home based business 10 years ago, I got some negative response from people. “You’ll never be successful, don’t you know most small businesses fail in the first couple of years?” “You have no business in being in business! You don’t understand the principles.” “Go get a steady job and get a regular paycheck like everybody else.” If I had succumbed to those opinions I would have missed out on years of fulfilling, heart engaging, and energizing work! Just reading these old “voices of conformity” brings my energy down! Don’t let the naysayers undermine your intentions to follow your heart! Trust your inner wisdom and go blaze a new trail. You don’t have to do a certain job, you can choose differently.
The voice of self diminishment – This one is insidious and can derail your best intentions. These are the messages we tell ourselves about not being _______ enough. (You fill in the blank). Don’t put off following your passions because you think you have to get more; training, practice, organized, money or whatever you feel is missing. This doesn’t mean that you don’t do any preparation to realize your life’s work, it does mean you stop trying to talk yourself out of it because you are feeling inadequate. Do some research and find out the truth. For instance; do you really have to have a degree in business to start one? (No you don’t)
The voice of idle complaint – Another name for this voice could be; the whine and procrastinate process. We all know people who seem to enjoy complaining. You know the ones that love to share how awful their work/life/relations/situation/whatever is. Please don’t do that to yourself! Evidence of the voice of idle complaint appears when we procrastinate. When we turn a deaf ear to the voice of our inner wisdom and come up with excuses to ignore it. For example you might say to yourself or others; I will make a career change when “I have enough money, my husband/wife finishes school, when my kids go off to college, when I get fired or laid off, when XYZ occurs.” We wait for some external circumstances to change in order for us to take action to create our own future. Write down a few actions you can realistically take towards making your dreams for fulfilling work come true and then do them!
I am not suggesting anyone act irresponsibly and just assume if you leap off a cliff your wings will appear, but I am encouraging you to really examine your reasons for staying in a job or work situation in which you are truly unhappy.
“Your time is limited, so don’t waste living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by the dogma – which is living the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and own intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become.” —Steve Jobs
Steve got it right. He certainly blazed a trail and changed the world. You can to!